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Dealing With Breakups - 5 Things You Can Do If Your Lover Says 'I Need Space'

Some say, breaking up is much harder than falling in love. Indeed, it takes a lot of courage to get over with the rollercoaster of emotions that come along with a breakup. Especially if you have been with your partner for quite a long time, dealing with breakups can be difficult and tricky.

 
Here are 5 things that you can do to prepare yourself if your partner finally says 'I need space' and help you in dealing with breakups that may happen in your life.

1. Allow yourself to grieve.

Sadness, pain, anger, frustrations, confusions and the many other mix of emotions are normal after a breakup and you don't have to keep them inside. Talk to your friends or family if you need someone to talk to. Allow yourself to cry and let them all out. This will help you overcome them sooner and help heal your emotions fast.

2. Give him what he wants.

This may sound easier said than done but you have to keep in mind that to give way when your partner says he needs space can be advantageous to you especially if you still love him and you intend to get back together with him. A little space in the relationship sometimes can do good to the relationship. As the old saying goes, 'absence makes the heart go fonder' and, indeed, it may work for you in the end.

3. Give yourself time to think and forget about the desperate moves.

Usually, when different emotions and thoughts are haunting us after the breakup, we tend to think fast and if we want something, the first thing that comes to our mind is to chase it. In dealing with breakups, chasing a person who needs space may be counterproductive. You may think about desperate moves to let him change his mind - threatening, blackmailing, stalking... and even pestering him with a phone call or message every minute, but all these will only drive him farther. Of course, nobody wants to pay attention to a desperate and needy ex lover.

4. Love yourself even more.

Spend time pampering yourself and finding new interests and hobbies in life. If you have been wanting to enroll in a baking class or get into mountain hiking or traveling but you haven't had the time before, then this time is an opportunity to do these things. Meet new friends and be with positive people. Find new ways to improve your career and start to look beautiful again if you have ignored that part of yourself.

5. Don't waste your time seeking revenge.

Dealing with breakups can be hard and painful and some may think getting revenge is a way to lessen the pain, but keep in mind that revenge can boomerang and does not allow you to move on. Remember that the best revenge you can give is to move on and live a happy and fulfilling life. In the end, you may even impress your ex and attract him back into your life if he will come to realize you were such a great loss to him.

Start with these tips to help you get over with a breakup. Keeping in mind some common mistakes in dealing with breakups will help you a lot in moving on with life easily and even increase your chances of getting back together with your ex.

For a more detailed guide on how to deal with breakups and increase your chances of getting back together with your ex, check out overcoming breakups, where you can also get a personalized advice on how to get back together with your ex.